How do you convince yourself that you are beautiful
The method that I use to embrace and honour my authentic self.
Embracing Your Authentic Self: A Journey Worth Taking
It’s a foreign concept to many: "Isn’t everything I do myself if I am the one doing it?" You might even ask, “Isn’t everything I say myself if I am the one saying it?”
If you grew up in a world untouched by the influence of others—people, events, or ideas—perhaps that would be the case. But, let’s face it: most of us were raised in environments where others’ dreams and expectations were projected onto us. From the subtle to the overt, through spoken and unspoken words, we were told what to think, feel, look like, value, and aspire to become.
In the world we live in today, being you requires conscious effort. It’s an ongoing pursuit, and though it’s one of the most rewarding and liberating paths, it’s not easy. You have to let go of certain things and intentionally adopt new practices.
What to Stop Doing
Apologizing for Who You Are
I can't count the number of women I've met, both personally and professionally, who apologize for simply being themselves. They apologize for taking up too much space, for not speaking enough, for being too sensitive—or not sensitive enough, for being too much—or, in many cases, for feeling like they are just not enough.
Here’s the thing: every time you apologize for who you are, you’re essentially saying, “There’s something wrong with me” or “I need to change or improve." And that, right there, is the exact opposite of what we need to do in order to honour our authentic selves.
Apologies should be reserved for genuine mistakes—when you've hurt someone unintentionally or crossed a boundary. They shouldn’t be reserved for moments when you’re simply being true to who you are.
Comparing Yourself to Others
Comparison is the thief of joy, yet we do it anyway. We scroll, we compare, and we measure ourselves against those we think have it all together. But here’s the thing: every time you compare, you create a false narrative. You build an impossible standard—a “norm” that’s anything but normal. And in the process, you deny yourself the one thing that sets you free: being unapologetically you.
Stop looking sideways. Start looking inward. Because the moment you embrace your uniqueness, the game changes.
People Pleasing
Let’s get one thing straight: people-pleasing is a slow death. The moment you stop living for others is the moment you start living for yourself. Dimming your light so others feel comfortable? That’s a losing strategy. If your goal is to live a life that honours your true self, then it’s time to let go of the need for external approval. Only then can you show up fully, and freely, for the people who actually matter.
What You Should Start Doing
1. Get to Know Yourself Like Never Before
Here’s the truth: deep down, you already know who you are. You just haven’t asked the right questions. Take the time to reflect. What fires you up? What makes you lose track of time? The answers are already within you. It’s time to bring them to the surface and embrace the quirks, dreams, and passions that make you you.
2. Let the World See the Real You
You can’t expect people to accept the real you if you keep hiding behind a mask. Speak your truth. Share your story. Show your scars. Every time you reveal another layer of your authentic self, you punch shame and fear in the face. Vulnerability isn’t weakness—it’s your superpower.
So, stop waiting for permission. Stop living someone else’s life. The world doesn’t need another copycat. It needs the one and only you.
3. Appreciate
Remember that promise you made to yourself? The one about not apologising for who you are anymore? It’s time to honour it.
Flip the script. Trade “I’m sorry” for “thank you.” Instead of, “I’m sorry I’m emotional,” try, “Thanks for holding space for me.”
When you stop saying sorry for your existence, you stop treating your uniqueness as a problem to be solved. You’ll realise those quirks, those messy bits—they’re not flaws. They’re your magic.